Emotional Freedom Technique for LOVE

EFT Tapping and Losing Someone you Love



EFT for lack of love




EFT for Heartbreak

Kick Out Broken Heart Confidently

There is nothing worse than a broken heart it makes you feel like your whole world has been turned upside down and inside out. You can't eat, you can't sleep, you just can't function. All you can do is think about the love and relationship that you have lost. Many people say that a broken heart cannot be healed, even with time but the truth is that if you forget and move on then your heart will too.

The way that you are feeling now, though, forgetting will be the furthest thing from your mind. But until you forget the pain and suffering will remain.

Here are some favourite broken heart quotes of mine and explanations based on how they can mend your broken heart.

"Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."

Yes you will feel pain when a relationship has ended but you do not have to suffer. There are many ways in which you can forgive and forget and ultimately mend your broken heart.

"If you can't save the relationship, at least save your pride."

Don't beg or harass your ex as this will make the situation even worse. It will also make you look needy and without self respect or pride. Instead remove yourself, if possible from any situations with your ex until you have had a chance to cool off.

"Letting go of someone dear to you is hard, but holding on to someone who doesn't even feel the same is much harder. Giving up doesn't mean you are weak! It only means that you are strong enough to let go!"

During this cooling off period you should try and sort out your feelings and get rid of your anger. You need to accept that the relationship is over and start making changes to your life.

"You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again."

If you just keep going over the past and are unable to think of the future then you will never be able to move on. You need to forgive any differences that you had between you and start to forget. Yes, this will be difficult if you have shared many happy memories. But if you have split up there are also going to be not so good memories that led to you splitting up. Instead of wishing for the past focus on these reasons and take them as advice to make yourself a better person and turn your life around.

"Wherever you are, be there totally. If you find your here and now intolerable and it makes you unhappy, you have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it totally."

Your relationship has ended, your heart is broken so you have two options. One is to remain in this pain forever and the other is to accept what has happened and move on. If you stay in your current situation you will remain unhappy. Only you can control your future and you need to start making choices that will eventually bring you to your new life.

"I am somebody. I am me. I like being me. And I don't need anybody to make me somebody."

You are a person and you are worth everything. Do not put yourself down or think that you are worthless because there is one person who does not love you anymore. Think of the other people that do love you (friends, family etc) and focus on continuing to make these people happy. If a relationship has broken up and you are broken hearted then maybe it has been for the best, maybe the relationship itself was making you unhappy. Now you have been given a chance to find and love yourself. You don't need anyone else. You are you and you WILL be happy again!

Is your heart still broken? Use this GLUE to stick it back together forever!

Between Love and Friendship

What can look very casual or generic in your eyes, might not be so simple in theirs. Who their's? Girls. You may hold very deep rooted feeling, or not so serious feeling for them, but before you approach a good friend of yours with a red rose and propose her, make sure you don't loose her forever.

It can be a nightmarish experience to be in a dilemma of - "do I? Don't I?" There is no conclusive methodology to tell you whether you are in love or not. That's exactly why we have three words, almost similar in meaning, yet not so similar in application. These words are crush, infatuation and love.

To be frank, I still haven't been able to crack what love is. Ask any odd couple- are you in love? And, spat comes the reply- yes. But within a few weeks after break up they both will say, "It was just a crush!" Anyways, my intention is not to malign the Gen-x culture of attachment and detachment; what I want to stress upon is, if you aren't sure that whether you are in love with your closest pal or not, don't try to act stupid and dream day-night about it.

Most of the time, when we are crushed and tarred our room with cigarette butts, we find solace in our closest pal. Many a times, you may also start getting attracted to her/ him. That's very normal. But don't just let this normalcy ruin your friendship. Possibilities are that your friend might not feel the same. Now, the reaction to such an explosive situation depends on the sex of partner.For example, if, your best pal is a gal, and she doesn't like you in that sense, in all probability you are going to risk your future comfort levels. But if the best pal is a guy, most of the time they would burst into laughter and if then, they still find you very serious about the issue, they are going to dissuade you by telling you half baked truths or lies (which ever would be effective).

The best solution to such a slippery situation would be to act smart. Wait till you see some reactions of the same wavelength from the opposite sex. Give her/him a hint, just a hint, ask him/ her - what if you like him/her. If the resulting situation doesn't look good, burst into laughter and just say that few classmates asked you this and so, you just wanted to see the reaction of him/her.

Hey! If you think love can be won only through honesty think again! There are plenty of tricks that work. Yeah, sort of snitch thing is true! always rise in love!

Allow your self to love

Many people walk around on this planet looking for the "one" person that will make them complete. Relationship after relationship will end the same way. In the beginning things seem to be great, you become attached to the other person and feel as though they have all the answers to the void in your heart.

You feel as though you have finally found the person that can love you for who you are. You love the persons qualities and ignore the little things that may get on your nerves. You go into this relationship thinking that this person will prove their love to you by changing those things that are not in-line with the connection you both have.

After a while you notice that those little things that you thought would change haven't gone away. All the things that got on your nerves have increased and have brought more hidden qualities out that you simply cannot stand about the person. You find yourself aggravated and confused and wonder about what you saw in them in the first place.

That's when we go into the game of reflection; we remember all the little things that got on our nerves in the beginning. We blame ourselves for being so stupid that we did not "see it." We feel as though we have been tricked into the relationship by the other person. This is when true resentment sets in, you think to yourself "If I knew what I know now I would have never gotten myself into this mess."

At this point you feel stuck or trapped in your current situation. Arguments seem to explode out of nowhere or worse no communication at all. If you are married and have children this feeling becomes almost unbearable. You will justify in your mind why you should stay and lead a live of self sacrifice in order to make your children happy. This is the normal state of relationships in our world, this is why people will build a wall around them to keep other people from getting too close.

In certain situations the person will feel as though they are so stuck that they will attach their happiness to another. They will feel that this person outside of the misery obligation called marriage truly knows them. They will also justify in their minds why they should be with this person. They will form elaborate images in their head of a time when they will be happy.

In some cases they will leave the marriage and get into their new relationship only to be faced with disappointment again. This process will continue throughout their life and they will eventually feel as though they are simply not meant to be happy. They will feel as though they are not good enough to fill the role of a person who is a happy wife or husband.

This is normal for relationships in this day and age. Many people will look for happiness in their partner only to find disappointment and resentment. This is because happiness is not found outside of yourself although it is the last place anyone will look.

Some will lie to themselves and others in order to justify keeping themselves in a state of misery. They will lead double lives in which behind closed doors they will cry themselves to sleep but proclaim to the world that they are indeed happy. They will tie their happiness to a self sacrificing routine in which they are doing all the things they are supposed to do even if they really do not want to. This is hell.

Somewhere we got the message of love all mixed up and jumbled with rules and regulations. We are told that if you are a man you are supposed to act one way. If you are a woman you act another. We are told that love is work, love means doing things you do not want to do, and that love is submitting and playing your role to the best of your abilities. We are also told that we are not perfect and what is worse is we believe all of these lies.

We learn by watching those around us and by listening to these rules about love. You watch your parents who have been married for thirty years and think they must have the answer. You notice how they do not spend time together and how they get upset with each other. You notice how your mother cries herself to sleep and your father justifies his actions by proclaiming "I am the man of the house" or "This is for your own good." This becomes your truth about love.

You notice how your mother's opinion is spoken but seen as nonsense because it just does not fit with your father's vision. You notice your father doing everything he is supposed to do even though he hates doing it and he tells you this is love. You notice your mother frantically cleaning the house and cooking dinner before your father gets home and she tells you this is love.

You think to yourself, love is doing things you do not want to do. When you are constantly sacrificing your happiness then you are showing your love. This becomes the standard for your relationship in the future and it conflicts with what you really want but it becomes your truth.

As you are growing older you are told what kind of person would be good for you. You start to develop an image of what you want based on what society and your culture believes is the "right" person. You also have an image of what you are supposed to be but know that deep down inside you have a hard time meeting them because you are simply not perfect.

Then you meet someone. This person seems to be all the things you have always been looking for. Someone who can finally fill the void in your heart, someone who can finally make you happy. They are perfect for you and so you quickly jump into the role that you believe is perfection on your part. If you are a woman maybe you will clean their room or apartment. If you are a man you will buy them expensive gifts. You will play the role in order to earn their love and prove yourself worthy.

You will become what you believe they need based on what you have learned throughout your life. But this is only a façade and eventually begins to crumble and turns to frustration and resentment. You find that you cannot keep up with everything you have promised, as a man you want they best for her, you want to be able to give her everything she wants, you believe this is love. As a woman you want to fill the role of a good wife and give your husband all the support a good wife is to give, you fill your role, you believe this is love.

When you do not meet these expectations resentment sets in. You may feel it is resentment for the other person but in actuality it is resentment for yourself because you simply cannot find a way to make this other person happy. A few month after marriage and you are both arguing over nothing. This is simply due to the frustration you feel for yourself in not meeting expectations. You are unhappy because of this, yet you focus on the other person and why they are not able to make you happy. The other person begins to feel like a failure because no matter what they do they cannot make you happy and the arguments just confirm how terrible they are making things.

Children come along and things seem to be ok for a while until the focus returns to the underlying feelings that were simply ignored for the time being. Now they get worse because not only do you feel you are a bad spouse but a bad parent as well. This is where a distance starts to form, because it feels as though no conflict between one another is a good thing. So you find two people who are bound together for life and yet feel so alone.

This is the normal standard for relationships in this day and age. This is love, but it is all twisted out of context. This is in no way shape or form what love really is, love is not work, love is not obligation, and love is not self sacrificing.

Love is simply love. It needs to start from within and you will find what it is you have been missing all along, this will change everything in your life and allow you to find the happiness you have always been seeking. This will change your relationship with your spouse and your children.

Start by no longer abusing yourself. I have found that even people in an abusive relationship are still being abused slightly less than they abuse themselves. No longer allow yourself to speak to yourself in a negative way. Begin to think positive about yourself and realize that you are perfect just the way you are. This will change the way you feel you are being treated.

Second step is to not take anything personal. You must realize that when your spouse and you are in an argument the words and actions have nothing to do with you. These are deep seeded insecurities and fears they have about themselves, so don't take it personal.

The third step is to be honest about everything, tell it the way you believe it to be. Be honest about what you feel, be honest with yourself and your spouse. If you are not honest about who you are then you will never deal with the issue. Hiding the issue within yourself will lead to much heart ache, so just speak the truth. Do not say things to see what the other persons reaction will be. Do not try and manipulate a situation and do not tell the other person what they want to hear.

The fourth step is knowing that change is good. In a relationship we tend to fear change, embrace it. Everything and everyone is changing and evolving. You are not the same person you were five minutes ago. Release these expectations about you and your partner based on what happened yesterday because neither one of you is the same person.

The fifth step is to live in the moment. Many people spend their entire lives living in the past or living in the future. They focus on how they wish things would be, they spend so much time there that they miss the moment they are living now. Live right now, in the moment and don't allow yourself to miss a thing.

The sixth step is to appreciate the good. Too many people will focus all their energy on what they do not want. Live in the now and appreciate everything you have, cherish it. Feel the love that comes with appreciation of all the little things that you encounter throughout your day.

The seventh step is to always be genuine. You are perfect no matter what anyone tells you, remember that their idea of perfection is completely different than yours. You are absolutely perfect in every way and you do not need to compromise who you are for anyone else. So always be genuine. Just be yourself, be happy with who you are, love yourself and you will find the love you have always been looking for.

Love The Way You Love

To live in peace and love, evil cannot be overcome by more evil. Evil can only be overcome by good. The current trend in the world today is to overcome evil with evil, which with modern weapons would lead to complete choas. The way of overcoming evil with good and love, it would lead to a glorious and mature life. It is the lesson of the way of love. Those who create something which is evil in order to overcome something else which is evil, will only double the evil.

Pure love is a willingness to give, without a thought of receiving anything in return. Love can save the world from nuclear destruction. Love your fellow human beings; make yourself fit to be called a child of God by living the way of love.

Do you know there is a power greater than ourselves which manifests itself within us as well as everywhere else in the universe? This can be called God. To love God is to reflect love toward all people and all creations. To know God is to feel peace within - a calmness, a serenity, an unshakeableness which enables you to face any situation. You can find God if you will only seek - by obeying divine laws, by loving people, by relinquishing self-will, attachments, negative thoughts and feelings. And when you find God it will be in the stillness. You will find God within.

The Way of Man is taught by Confucius. The five human relationships must be perfected before one can appreciate The Way of Heaven. In life, firstly is to practise the Way of Man. Sincerity in the practice is of utmost importance. When you give love, in return you shall receive love. To ask for mercy, first you must show mercy.

Goddess of Mercy said, "let thousands of people, receive the light of mercifulness. Let thousands of people, bathe in the great grace of Heaven. Let thousands of people, transcend from the sea of sufferings. Do not compare with others. Do not compete with others. Establish a right objective. Do not hesitate and do not hinder yourself. Accept the sufferings and live with the sufferings. Feel the tragedies of mankind. Give joyousness whenever required. Show mercy, in return you shall receive mercy." How many of us can really show mercy?

People can be very cruel and unreasonable. Why not ponder over this poem, "In the dark, there is some light. In the black, there is some white. In the blind, there is some sight. In the wrong, there is some right. Step back one pace. The sea is wide and the sky is spacious. Give some way to others, how leisurely one is! Endure a few words, you'll be easy and worry-free. Be patient for a while, a happy fairy one becomes!"